Our parents

Name: Holly
Question:

Both my and my fiance's parents are divorced. In my case I have my father and step mother, who are no problem. But I also have my recently ex-stedad and his wife, who I love very much, I think of him as a father and he did more to raise me than my own father. His wife does not like my mom, and my new stepdad does not like my ex-stepdad. The same applies to my fiance's stepmom and his mother. We really want everyone involved, and they all haven't even met yet. What can I do to ensure that they all meet and get along. I have a feeling that his stepmother is going to be the most difficult to get to cooperate on this. She seems so indefferent to me as it is. We haven't set a date yet, but I really do want them all to meet before we set a date. I just don't know what to do about it. Thank you.
~Holly~


Hi Holly, without going into it too much the short of it is that this is your day. You will probably have to sit them all down either together or seperately and say exactly that, let them know they are all welcome to the wedding, but they must get along for the sake of your happiness on your big day. If they feel that they can't get along, then it is their loss, not yours. Your day will go along and be as enjoyable with or without them. The last thing you need on your wedding day Holly is a family feud.
Best wishes and good luck with this.

Tracey Mumford